The first important lesson I learnt from chapter 6 is that nonverbal communication is not only body language but also tone, rate, volume as well as signs and laughter. Although nonverbal communication does not involve the use of words, it always sends a message. Nonverbal communication can be intentional or non-intentional.
Non-verbal cues help us to help others understand who we truly are. It helps us to convey what we truly feel even when we try to show the opposite. They also help us create friendships and family ties. Decoding nonverbal communication is tricky because sometimes it is easy to get it wrong. I learn that groups that are better at understanding and spotting nonverbal communication are women, extroverts and people who are good at displaying the cues themselves.
Understanding nonverbal cues and practising them can help any individual win others over and such people are more attractive in society. I was surprised that there is a condition where people don’t understand nonverbal cues. People born with this Nonverbal Learning disorder are not necessarily unable to read some signals are at a total loss when it comes to reading nonverbal cues. Nonverbal Communication
Nonverbal communication is influenced by several factors. Culture for example makes nonverbal cues different in different parts of the world resulting in misunderstandings when people from different cultures interact. Age and gender also contribute to the nonverbal cues people display.
Functions of nonverbal communication involve repetition of what is said in words into nonverbal cues as well. In substitution, nonverbal communication can stand in for words.in the complementing role helps speaker’s words bear more feeling. Nonverbal cues can also be used when a person is emphasizing what they are saying in words. Online nonverbal cues are in the form of emojis. Nonverbal cues also help in controlling a conversation and tell when to stop talking. Nonverbal cues are so strong such that when the words don’t measure up to the actions, then the action bears more weight. Nonverbal cues however can sometimes hide deception.
Types of nonverbal communication include how we use our body such as hands to gesture and body posture to tell what is going on in the unseen. Eyes and facial expressions also help in communication. Vocal cues expose our feelings by what words we emphasize on in our speech. Physical appearance also dictates the messages sent to different people. It is hard to alter physical appearance but it can be made better by the clothes we wear, the posture we choose when standing or sitting or the gestures one chooses. Time management, touch, space and the environment around us communicates to others the kind of people we are.
There are simple solutions to understanding nonverbal cues such as watching others more than we listen to their words, differentiating between the meaning of a particular gesture by asking for clarification with words and then judging if it true or not. While it is easy to want to explore other people, self-exploration should first be done to understand how one communicates to other themselves. Nonverbal Communication
In the video ‘Your body language can change who you are’ Amy convinces me that body language can influence if I feel powerful or not. In ‘crazy stupid love’ the characters conveyed their emotion none verbally. Their nonverbal cues were more convincing. Their nonverbal cues were ambiguous because the girls smiled even when they were not interested in the guy. In how to spot a liar, I think that it is true that we are lied to a lot because people want to please us while we lie to close people to maintain relationships as well. The most leaking cues of deception are fake smiles, inconsistencies in speech and talking with fingers more than with words. In beauty part 2, most successful people are good looking. We all have beauty standards and that is why people emphasize on image. People who don’t look like fashion models have to live up to the expectations of standard beauty. In the hidden power of smiling it is true that smiles enhance our attractiveness. I make a friend faster when I smile at them than when I maintain a serious face. People who smile more live longer because the effect of smiling convinces them that they are happy and thus live longer because happy people are less depressed and less likely to suffer from depression related illnesses.
I have felt like focusing on people’s nonverbal cues when I feel like they are lying. Understanding nonverbal cues help me to understand what people want from me and deliver to their satisfaction. Cameron’s impression changed with her dressing. Her talk influenced me to stop thinking that models are perfect because I saw all the work that goes into creating the perfect picture. It is true that many times racial and gender oppression stems from the first physical outlook. Nonverbal Communication
These readings will affect me from now on. I will dress better, practice on nonverbal cues and posture as well as facial expressions. In my interaction with others I will look at nonverbal cues to better understand what they are saying. I know how to look for lies now but I will only do so when the need arises. Where the nonverbal cues are ambiguous I will ask for clarity to determine truth.
As a student, this reading applies well because I interact with a lot of students throughout the day and I need to know which situations are genuine and which ones are not. As a student, I will also be able to understand lecturers better and understand when they mean business and when they are joking by looking at their nonverbal. As a student, I interact with both genders and people from different cultures. With the new information I will be able to respect their nonverbal cues by studying how they react to different situations. As a student, I am a part of different study groups and this reading will help me understand members’ emotional displays better. Nonverbal Communication