To begin with, it is true that for a couple to truly discern whether or not their love and relation are authentic and ready for marriage, they ought to refrain from having sexual relations before marriage.  It is because according to the Catholic Christian teaching, it is unethical for one to engage in the activity because by doing so, one is not guided on how to stay a good spiritual life. Instead, by having sex before marriage, individuals motivate themselves to engage in the situations whereby one can claim that they are abusing sex. For instance, sex before marriage may lead to homosexuality and lesbianism.  Sydney Callahan points out, “conflicts of gender, homosexuality and the morality of reproduction distract us” (Callahan, 162). This statement indicates that sexual intercourse before marriage is questionable because it is considered immoral in the majority of the societies. Besides, according to Callahan, sex should not be practiced before marriage because it is a misuse of the bodies which were created by God. Thus, having sex does not mean that people are lovers, but it may demonstrate high levels of immorality.

Equally, it is true that for a couple to truly discern whether or not their love and relation are authentic and ready for marriage, they ought to refrain from having sexual relations before marriage. It is because it is against the practices of traditional societies. For people to marry in the 18th century, a young man and a woman were given room for courtship that had to take several months before marriage. The courting individuals were supposed to come from a family that had the same level of richness. During the courtship era, the people involved were not supposed to engage in any sexual activity.  During such moments, all the stakeholders involved did everything possible to ensure that their daughter or son did not boycott the marriage.  Lawrence Stone in the chapter, “Passionate Attachments in the West in Historical perspective” points out that, “Courtship among the poor people was characterized by lasting six months or more” (Stone, 181) During this time, the young individuals used to engage in sexual intercourse, an indication that sex before marriage may be an implication that individuals are destitute and not that they are in love.

Similarly, it is true that for a couple to truly discern whether or not their love and relation are authentic and ready for marriage, they ought to refrain from having sexual relations before marriage because sex encounters before marriage leads to emotional suffering among the parties involved.  Students have reported that the highest mental torture in their lives has been attributed to sexual experiences. To that end, Callahan indicates that sexual intercourse may disrupt the happiness of an individual. He points out that girls like talking about their sex encounter more than the boys. Callahan says, “The greatest emotion and suffering in their lives so far has come from their sexual encounters.” (Callahan, 161) The students speak to the teacher and talk about the conflicts and the disagreements that they have endured as a result of sexual activities. To that end, sex before marriage is not good because it may discourage the parties involved from marrying each other because of the terrible experiences sex leads to.

It is true that for a couple to truly discern whether or not their love and relation are authentic and ready for marriage, they ought to refrain from having sexual relations before marriage because according to the traditional societies, several communities engaged their young women in activities such as fruit gathering (Stone,183). During such moments, participating in sexual activities could lead to pregnancies which may force the girls to halt the gathering process. Thus, the love that young men and women could be having should not involve sexual relationships that may disrupt the girls’ core activities in the society.

The above discussions illustrate that it is true that for a couple to truly discern whether or not their love and relation are authentic and ready for marriage, they ought to refrain from having sexual relations before marriage.